In your second in-depth post comment on your progress so far and how you were able to incorporate the first three aspects of how to have a beautiful mind.
The three aspects of how to have a beautiful mind are how to agree, how to disagree, and how to differ. They are all tactics in better achieving a respectful and fruitful conversation with mentors! While these skills are extremely beneficial to have, I cannot apply it in real life just yet as a possible mentor has put down my request for mentorship after a month of communication.
Where am I right now and how did I get here? I am currently doing independent research while actively trying my best to search for a mentor. I have called DavidsTea branches near my home to seek possible employment. Unfortunately, none of them are hiring at the moment. I got in contact with Jessica Henderson (pseudonym) to look for connections that may be interested in hiring me. Jessica no longer works at DavidsTea, but she gave me the contacts to her former manager, who she told me was very knowledgeable in tea and might be interested in mentoring me. I got in contact with this person, and it took a few messages back and forth to clearly explain the in-depth project at talons. after about two weeks, she told me that she appreciated that I took my time to ask her, but that she won’t have enough time to do this for me. She did, however, tell me that she can ask some of her friends if they were interested in mentoring me. I said it’d be great if she could do that for me. It has been a few days, there is no answer yet. I am waiting for an answer while searching online for nearby tea rooms that may have people that are interested in this project.
(I swear, Murphy’s law is real.)
It has been quite difficult so far. I couldn’t let myself make no progress whatsoever in the meantime, so like I said earlier, I am doing independent reserach by myself. I have been educating myself about the different types of tea there are and have been drafting some ideas for my learning centre. I would like to create a tea bar to serve my guests on in-depth night! An interesting fact that I learned while doing my own research is that green, white, oolong, and black tea are actually all made of the same plant, but the drying and preserving process that is wildly different from each other makes them different teas! Isn’t that cool?
Since the second blog post asks for incorporation of the first three aspects of the beautiful mind, I will make hypothetical situations to simulate how I can apply them in real life.
- How to agree
Since it is important to not agree on absolutely everything the mentor says just for the sake of listening, respectfully agreeing and disagreeing is crucial. If the mentor says something like “Green tea has the heaviest caffeine containment.”, I could try to further question them by asking things like “Compared to what other teas?” Or “Does it depend on concentration?” to know where they are coming from [to understand] their logic (p. 6).
2. How to disagree
Again, disagreeing is important as it may help further understanding or catch minor mistakes. Making an effort to understand the mentor’s views and trying to think about why they may say certain things may help. If the mentor says something like “Tea is generally bad for you.”
Instead of becoming angry and saying things like “That’s absolutely incorrect! You are wrong.” I can say something like, “I do understand that the caffeine in certain teas can certainly be unhealthy. Why is tea otherwise generally bad for me?” To find points of agreement and disagree respectfully using questions that may lead to me learning about where they are coming from.
3. How to differ
This is more applicable when the mentor and I are talking about topics that include opinion. I think celebrating diversity is important, and I also think that diversity can be as large of a topic as ethnicity, but can be applied within small things like the preference of tea as well. If a mentor thinks that rooibos tea is the best tea of all, I could acknowledge their point of view by stating what I like about that specific brew of tea while stating my favourite tea (straight black tea…) and why I like it to spark a respectful conversation rather than creating a debate over it.
I really hope to find a mentor soon. If I cannot…
Actually, I have to get a mentor. They’re pretty crucial to have in in-depth, so I will try everything in my power to get a mentor. Best of luck to myself!!