I left off on my last post by saying that I was going to contact Jacob Gebrewold. He responded last Tuesday and we chatted for about an hour that night on the phone. We talked about my project and what I am looking to achieve. Then he asked me “why”, he wanted to know the route cause for me doing what I am doing. He said “I want you to start with “why” not “how” or “what” (paraphrased). That I need to have a ‘be all end all’ in mind when as I go through life. Instead of wanting to go into law, business, or economics; he asked me to consider why I wanted to go into a profession. Essentially he asked me what my goal in life was in our first phone conversation.
As the conversation went on he said that, he didn’t think he had the time to mentor me but would still be able to help me out with the project and even help me find a mentor. As he continued to help me find my “why”, he directed me towards a ted talk called ‘Start with why’ by Simon Sinek and his book by the same title.
Over the next week I watched the ted talk and looked into the book, though I have not yet purchased it. I talked to him again last Saturday and seeing that I had done what he asked he decided that it was worth his time to mentor me for this project. He has assigned me numerous books to read and we have agreed to meet every Saturday. I am really excited to work with Jacob over these next six months!
Thus far in my project I have not had to disagree or differ with anything that Jacob has said. Though we have only talked twice everything seems to make sense to me. But it took some thought to understand; many people in the past have tried to get me to read leadership books, or think about where I want to go with my life. But I have never really taken them seriously, I would just kind of shrug it off and lose interest. But so far in the in-depth project has been different. I assume that it is because of his passion on the subject. Actually I remember him saying something about this he said: “The only information that you can guarantee as practical is something that someone has applied that caused a specific result. It also cannot be specific to them”. I think this applies to this situation, Jacob has personally applied the knowledge in the leadership books.
There are going to be times when I do disagree with something Jacob sais over the next 5 months and I think it is important that I know how to appropriately differ in any situation. I think it is important for me to be able to word any disagreement in a positive and constructive way. I need to think about how I can disagree while keeping an open conversation and an open mind. I would say something along the lines of “I am curious to know your reasoning behind that”. I think this is good because it gets the other person to help me understand what they mean without shooting down their idea.
So far my in-depth is going really well. I have arranged to meet with Jacob this Sunday to talk about some strategies of building my connections to business personnel. I feel that we have had very similar opinions over our last two conversations and the things that he has taught me I have agreed with. But there will inevitably be times when I do not agree with something that he sais and will have to find a way to express that without shooting down any ideas. I think that is a very important skill to have in any given situation. Not just for my in-depth.